What if I told you that you didn’t have to worry about your biological clock?
How many women go through life constantly fearing that they are running out of time because they haven’t found “the one” and as a result they still haven’t become mothers? The truth is we all have, whether we speak about it openly or not, the thought of your reproductive system aging, the complications that come with the years and trying to navigate through the dating scene is exhausting to say the least. Luckily we live in a world filled with scientific advances that can enhance our quality of life. Methods such as egg freezing can actually become an empowering tool for women.
In a recent interview, I had the opportunity to speak with an amazing woman who knows all about egg freezing because she went through the process herself. Rachel Lehmann-Haupt is the author of: In her Own Sweet Time: Egg Freezing and the New Frontiers of Family. Rachel is a leading expert on family life, how to plan better as far as careers go and how one can incorporate science and technology to fertility and pregnancy.
As our conversation began I asked her about the reasoning behind her interest in this new age of modernized family planning. She explained it to me in a way that made sense and I was able to really understand, I had an “a-ha” moment as Oprah would call it. Rachel said, “We are in phase in society in which women are getting married and having children at a later age in life.” She elaborated on the fact that as women we are putting our economic power first and giving personal success priority. I personally believe there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. In retrospect, if men can focus solely on their careers, why shouldn’t women be able to do the same?
The real enlightenment during our conversation began when Rachel touched on a really personal subject for women. She spoke about the feeling women get once they reach this unspoken age, you know, the age when society and your internal clock tells you “You’re getting old, what are you waiting for? You need to have kids!” Then it becomes a race against time, and not just from a reproductive stand point but you begin to feel the pressure of having to find “the one”. That partner that you hope to marry not just because you love him but because you are ready to have children as well. This is where Rachel introduces the benefits of egg freezing and how we as women can use it as a tool to enhance our quality of life. Remove the stress of trying to find that perfect partner with whom to have kids with, allowing yourself to be able to focus on your career, goals and aspirations without the worry of running into fertility problems down the line.
I must confess that I had never really thought much of egg freezing prior to my conversation with Rachel but the more we spoke the more comfortable I became with the idea that egg freezing is actually empowering! Women have the option to do things on their own terms, on their own time. I’ve heard of many women who end up dating guys all based on the fact that they are in their late 30’s and they are afraid of running into fertility problems. The process of egg freezing is basically you taking your fertile eggs and saving them for later. It grants you the freedom to roam life without having to worry about time; if that isn’t empowering, I don’t know what it.
Rachel wants women to know that they do have options, there are numerous ways to plan for a family that don’t have to be based on traditional methods. Having went through the egg freezing process herself, Rachel dedicates her career to educating women and empowering them with the tools they need to live a life based on their personal needs and wants without the added pressure of finding a life partner or conforming to societies standards.
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By: Alexandra Torres, Online-Editor IG: @worldmeetswoman